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Serendipity, Part Two

As I write my no-cooking-required grocery list for “emergency prepreparedness”, James is calling the insurance company to find out whether the neighbor’s tree falling on our house would be covered, should Hurricane Irene take it down.  Three days before the storm is supposed to hit, I know stores will be total chaos, but I have to get milk, water, and all those essentials parents need for a storm, including ample potato chips and beer.  

Meanwhile, Dusty, who is enjoying 90-degree sunshiny days in New Orleans, has suggested, of all ironic things, that James and I should take a “hurrication”.  He suggests a weekend trip to New Orleans to avoid the storm in Connecticut.  He means it, too, and if we weren’t attending the wedding of two close friends on Saturday, I would be searching flights right now.  

I can’t tell you how blessed I feel to have a friend like Dusty, regardless of where he lives.  He’s genuine, generous, and exceptionally smart and funny. But to have a friend like Dusty living in my favorite place in the world, and to have his home and local knowledge available to us at any time, is a gift so huge I can hardly stand it.

Not only have we made friends with Dusty, but he has welcomed us into his life.  We are close with his best friend and neighbor, Chef B., who treats us like gold when we visit his home and his restaurant.  And, this summer, we even went to meet Dusty’s incredible family in Oklahoma, where we stayed in their home and were greeted with open arms.  

Our relationship with Dusty is one of the most meaningful we have, without a doubt.  It blows my mind when I consider how we were one drink away from not having him in our lives at all.  (Let that be a lesson to you — when you’re thinking of going for beers, don’t second guess yourself.)

We met Dusty at the Old Absinthe House on our first trip to New Orleans — you know, the one we almost didn’t take.  I love to tell the story of how, as our bartender, he took five minutes of his time, at a crowded bar, to explain all four varieties of absinthe that were available, and what he liked or didn’t like about each one.  I found it endearing, especially considering, back then at least, we were just tourists passing through.  

James loves to tell the story of how he ordered a $20 absinthe and asked Dusty not to light his sugar cube on fire, which was met with a roll of the eyes, as that was clearly his signature move and James was screwing around with absinthe etiquette.  

As explained in Serendipity Part One, we fell in love with New Orleans on that very first trip, and made it a point to come back as frequently as possible.  Actually, with the exception of going to Oklahoma and the free Atlantis trip this year, every vacation since 2008 has been to New Orleans. I believe it’s been seven times in three years, which included a year long hiatus due to my pregnancy.  We really can’t get enough.

So, not knowing exactly where else we should go, we frequented the Old Absinthe House (OAH) on our first three trips, and became as “regular” as visitors could become, stopping to see Dusty at least once per trip.  

It was our fourth trip there, as we were leaving a late lunch at Acme, when we decided to head down to OAH and see if that Dusty guy was there.  He was.  I’m still not 100% clear as to whether he knew who we were at that point, although he claims he did.  We told him we stopped by to visit and were glad we caught him.  The end result…priceless.

Our timing was impeccable, as he had only 20 minutes left on his shift.  His last shift ever.  

If we had stopped someplace on the way there, dawdled at Acme, or gone back to the hotel for a nap as we tend to do, I truly don’t know if we’d have seen him again.  I suspect not.  

But, as luck would have it, Dusty invited us to come out afterwards and celebrate with his friends.  Then, he invited us to see his backyard in the Marigny and meet his puppy, Annabelle.  And, most importantly, he invited us for “Red Beans Monday” with Chef B. the following afternoon.  

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Bittersweet: Red Beans, Crickets and Anniversaries.



Today is Monday.  This means it’s red beans and rice day, and Chef B.’s day off.

Dusty and Chef will no doubt be walking over to Schiro’s for lunch today.  It’s probably already happened, as a matter of fact.  “Monday red beans” at Schiro’s was the first meal we all shared together, and, when James and I find ourselves in town on Mondays, it’s a tradition we do well to keep.  

Sometimes, when he’s not working late, James surprises me with “RBR” and grilled andouille on Monday nights.  The flavor is all there — at least as good as Schiro’s, and I mean that — but there’s always so much that’s missing in the two empty seats at the table.  (Oh, and the snow doesn’t usually help matters.)

It recently came to my attention that, in Chinese culture, the red bean symbolizes the longing one feels when they are missing something or someone special and beloved. It’s a deeply romantic concept, and totally befitting of this situation.

In addition to it being Monday, it’s also late August.  I was reminded of that this morning when I walked, side by side, with a cricket hopping down the basement stairs. Crickets, like the red bean, are also symbolic.  They are said to be lucky, and protective in nature.  Black crickets make their way into our house every year around this time.  I used to be afraid of them, but after eight years of regular visits, I appreciate the cyclical nature of their appearance.  Clearly, it is their home, too.

This time last year, we took our daughter, then only ten weeks old, to New Orleans for the first time.  It was important for her to meet her uncles Dusty and Chef B, and to “get some gris gris on her”.  It was the second year in a row we were in town for the anniversary of Katrina, which is a strange, quiet, slow and hazy time to visit.

The anniversary of Hurricane Katrina runs right into the anniversary of our wedding.  Katrina made landfall in New Orleans on August 29th, 2005.  I had never been there before, but if I had, our wedding would have absolutely been a New Orleans “destination”.  

And, it would have been cancelled.  We got married September 4, 2005, and spent our honeymoon nights in France watching Katrina coverage on the BBC.  

“Bittersweet” is definitely the word that fits the bill, but only ten times more bitter…and ten times more sweet.